People who need people are supposed to be the luckiest people in the world. What happens when those people find they are not needed? Relationships are a delicate thing. They constantly hang in a balance with time and circumstance. We cannot cling to them and expect that they will never change; the opposite is true; they must change. They must find ways to continue to grow in adaptation to the variables before mentioned, or they risk dying.
Perhaps this is why it is bittersweet when friends part. There is no assurance that the variables will allow the growth to continue. Sometimes relationships come to a natural end - like in the movie "Under the Tuscan Sun." They have their moment in the sun, when they flourish, and then the natural cycle is to end them. Sometimes, though, they feel as if they are cut down short... before time naturally expires.
In Genesis, we read that God wanted companionship and created Adam. It was not that God needed it, but God wanted it. Adam was in a different position. God said it was not good for man to live alone and created Eve to be a partner in life. I read that as God saying we need each other in this life. I have read it to understand that we do not need spouses to be complete, but we do requite meaningful and lasting relationships with others. We are not meant to live solitary lives. I am told over and over that there is no such thing as the solo Christian, and perhaps it is for the same reason - God wants us to know a fullness in relation to one another.
However, I return to my question, what happens when the one who needs people is not needed? Some will say that our full value cannot be placed in the hands of others, but it should be found within. I do believe each person should know his or her own value, but even Paul, in 1 Corinthians, asks the ecclesia to affirm the fruit of the Spirit in each person. What if the body is absent to affirm? Where is affirmation found?
I hope that it is found in prayer. Perhaps these moments of solitude are meant to reconnect with the God that dwells within each of us. Perhaps God asks us to know the fruit placed within and ask the ecclesia for affirmation rather than to find and present the fruit to the person. It is like a medicine that does not go down easy but eventually strengthens the body, or soul, from within.
No one is alone. That is what ordained ministry is all about. More specifically, that is what the Order of the Deacon is all about. Deacons affirm to the world that we are there when all other hope seems lost and fading. We cannot cure, but we can heal. Sometimes, the ordained need to be there for each other for this very reason. Sometimes the ordained need to hear a voice of witness saying they are not alone on this journey of care.
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Stream of Conscience
The problem with studying practical theology is that you eventually start doing it. You start applying what you learn into your every day practice of life. Yes, John Wesley will factor into this too. I can't leave him out. So let us begin...
In the fall, I took a course on John Wesley's theology. If I needed a 3rd theo credit, I figured that would be the best one for me to take. We talked quite a bit about JW's rules on money. There are three: 1) Earn all you can, 2) Save all you can, 3) Give all you can. I will come back to the first one in just a minute. Save all you can means to live simply. Don't turn on the air conditioner when a fan will suffice. Don't eat at a fancy restaurant when you could make your meal at home. The third rule is pretty self-explanatory. When you find that you have taken care of your own basic needs (and that of your family), help take care of the basic needs of others.
The first rule, however, is the crux of my current dilemma. I am supposed to earn all the money I can so that I might be able to live out the next two rules. There is a caveat - I cannot earn it in such a way that it harms others. Most of the jobs I had only entailed disappointing people from time to time; now I am faced with a harder truth - I am working in a business that causes harm.
I watched as cancer slowly killed people in my family. Now, I sell tobacco to people. At first I rationalized what I was doing - they have made their own choice, and I'm working in a free-market society. If I didn't earn my money this way, someone else would. Eventually, my conscience caught up with me. Every time I made a sale, I felt a little piece of my soul die away. It sounds melodramatic, but there's nothing else to explain the sadness. What I do is sell a little piece of harm to people who chose to turn away from life. In this business, I do not promote life and life with God.
I am now trying to find a way to reconcile my conscience with a need. I prayerfully ask God everyday to show me a better path - one that leads away from here but still provides my needs. I have not yet heard the answer, but I trust that I will soon. My shepherd always supplies my needs, and I need to listen for the answer. I feel lost right now - I know what I need to do, and I need to find the strength to follow through.
Pray for all those who are caught between needs. There is a struggle when two vital needs seemingly oppose each other.
In the fall, I took a course on John Wesley's theology. If I needed a 3rd theo credit, I figured that would be the best one for me to take. We talked quite a bit about JW's rules on money. There are three: 1) Earn all you can, 2) Save all you can, 3) Give all you can. I will come back to the first one in just a minute. Save all you can means to live simply. Don't turn on the air conditioner when a fan will suffice. Don't eat at a fancy restaurant when you could make your meal at home. The third rule is pretty self-explanatory. When you find that you have taken care of your own basic needs (and that of your family), help take care of the basic needs of others.
The first rule, however, is the crux of my current dilemma. I am supposed to earn all the money I can so that I might be able to live out the next two rules. There is a caveat - I cannot earn it in such a way that it harms others. Most of the jobs I had only entailed disappointing people from time to time; now I am faced with a harder truth - I am working in a business that causes harm.
I watched as cancer slowly killed people in my family. Now, I sell tobacco to people. At first I rationalized what I was doing - they have made their own choice, and I'm working in a free-market society. If I didn't earn my money this way, someone else would. Eventually, my conscience caught up with me. Every time I made a sale, I felt a little piece of my soul die away. It sounds melodramatic, but there's nothing else to explain the sadness. What I do is sell a little piece of harm to people who chose to turn away from life. In this business, I do not promote life and life with God.
I am now trying to find a way to reconcile my conscience with a need. I prayerfully ask God everyday to show me a better path - one that leads away from here but still provides my needs. I have not yet heard the answer, but I trust that I will soon. My shepherd always supplies my needs, and I need to listen for the answer. I feel lost right now - I know what I need to do, and I need to find the strength to follow through.
Pray for all those who are caught between needs. There is a struggle when two vital needs seemingly oppose each other.
Friday, May 22, 2009
Proud of where I come from
I started my job in archives this week. I thought I would like it, but I never expected to love it. A professor said to our class, on the very first day, that he found himself spending more and more time in the archives - he'd just hang out there. We all laughed and scoffed at him. Today, I'm jokingly mad at him because he was right.
Today I found out about the amazing things that happened at BU before I was even born. Nowhere in my history books did they really discuss the depth of the Vietnam War on the American homefron. I suppose it's because it was seen as an embarrassment (I may do a modern-day interpretation comparing it to our current war, but not today). I found out that Marsh Chapel, at BU, offered two servicemen sanctuary within its walls. They hd already served a tour of duty, as required by law through the draft, and they were to report for another tour (not mandated by the draft law). They sought sanctuary within the church, and the church gave it.
However, like the younger sister of Cleopatra, Arsinoe, they were dragged from sanctuary. (One actually surrendered peacefully, the other was forcefully removed by the FBI.) Like in ancient Ephesus, this was an outrage among the people. What does the term "sanctuary" mean anymore? This was immoral and unjust in the eyes of those who protested, and yet they kept vigil. They preached and exhorted; they sang; they offered witness.
This is my BU. This is where I find "The school of the Prophets." Martin Luther King Jr, Georgia Harkness, Anna Howard Shaw, and Howard Thurman were mighty amazing people, and their place in history should not be diminished, but I will never be them. I will probably never change the course of history nor be mentioned in the history books. However, I can take a stand against injustice. I can raise my voice to help out another person in need. I can help someone find sanctuary in the midst of chaos. This is the passion I find within the walls of my school, and that kind of passion cannot be taught.
I am proud to be a member of this school and belong to this legacy. I can't wait to see what comes from this year and the legacy we will leave behind for future generation of BU STH.
Today I found out about the amazing things that happened at BU before I was even born. Nowhere in my history books did they really discuss the depth of the Vietnam War on the American homefron. I suppose it's because it was seen as an embarrassment (I may do a modern-day interpretation comparing it to our current war, but not today). I found out that Marsh Chapel, at BU, offered two servicemen sanctuary within its walls. They hd already served a tour of duty, as required by law through the draft, and they were to report for another tour (not mandated by the draft law). They sought sanctuary within the church, and the church gave it.
However, like the younger sister of Cleopatra, Arsinoe, they were dragged from sanctuary. (One actually surrendered peacefully, the other was forcefully removed by the FBI.) Like in ancient Ephesus, this was an outrage among the people. What does the term "sanctuary" mean anymore? This was immoral and unjust in the eyes of those who protested, and yet they kept vigil. They preached and exhorted; they sang; they offered witness.
This is my BU. This is where I find "The school of the Prophets." Martin Luther King Jr, Georgia Harkness, Anna Howard Shaw, and Howard Thurman were mighty amazing people, and their place in history should not be diminished, but I will never be them. I will probably never change the course of history nor be mentioned in the history books. However, I can take a stand against injustice. I can raise my voice to help out another person in need. I can help someone find sanctuary in the midst of chaos. This is the passion I find within the walls of my school, and that kind of passion cannot be taught.
I am proud to be a member of this school and belong to this legacy. I can't wait to see what comes from this year and the legacy we will leave behind for future generation of BU STH.
Friday, May 15, 2009
Unfinished business
Tonight I listened as our dean of students gave a sermon about the resurrected Jesus and unfinished business. The scripture comes from Luke 24:36-49 when Jesus reappears before the disciples, and they don't believe it's him. They touch him, but still can't believe. Then Jesus asks for something to eat, and they get it. We all laughed when she said, "They remember this Jesus... the one who was always eating... Jesus wanted some fried fish and cornbread." Yes, we lauged at that one. Jesus needed to get them past the doubt so they could take care of unfinished business. They needed to go out from Jerusalem to make disciples - they needed to spread the good news.
I was all set to write a rebuttle on this topic. I wanted to say that some times things just have to be left unfinished. Not everything cleans up nicely, but that's the way it ends. Then I got a phone call from a friend. You see, things had not been smooth for a while. We had both been under pressure from different sources. There was a sense of drifting away - at least I felt it on my end. I thought that drifting away would be the start of the end... we would end with unfinished business... and then there was a phone call. Through the doubt and confusion was a call for me and to me.
There is a time and a place to finish the unfinished business. I still don't have it worked out where and when that's supposed to happen, but I know that God will guide me to getting it done right. Doubt, confusion, miscommunication leave us with a sense that it might be better to walk away from something messy instead of getting our hands dirty and seeing if we can clean it up. It would have been a mistake this time. It might have been a mistake in the past. While I won't be sitting down to fried fish with Jesus, I'm hoping he'll take me up on some fried chicken and mac & cheese so we can see what else needs to be cleaned up so the journey can continue.
I was all set to write a rebuttle on this topic. I wanted to say that some times things just have to be left unfinished. Not everything cleans up nicely, but that's the way it ends. Then I got a phone call from a friend. You see, things had not been smooth for a while. We had both been under pressure from different sources. There was a sense of drifting away - at least I felt it on my end. I thought that drifting away would be the start of the end... we would end with unfinished business... and then there was a phone call. Through the doubt and confusion was a call for me and to me.
There is a time and a place to finish the unfinished business. I still don't have it worked out where and when that's supposed to happen, but I know that God will guide me to getting it done right. Doubt, confusion, miscommunication leave us with a sense that it might be better to walk away from something messy instead of getting our hands dirty and seeing if we can clean it up. It would have been a mistake this time. It might have been a mistake in the past. While I won't be sitting down to fried fish with Jesus, I'm hoping he'll take me up on some fried chicken and mac & cheese so we can see what else needs to be cleaned up so the journey can continue.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Is there room at the table for me?
I have learned what happens when you begin to expect grace and not see it as a gift. The beauty of it being a gift starts to dull. I become disappointed that it doesn't happen. I'm talking about the ups and downs of Methodist candidacy. I hoped to meet with my dCOM during annual conference, as it would be the only time in the year I planned to be home, however that will not happen.
There are 13 United Methodist seminaries in existence. That means there are more people than just me who are studying in an area outside their home conference, and especially outside of their districts. While it is their choice to go to a seminary closest to home or far away, I question how much help is provided in helping them balance the requirements of academia and church.
My experience has been that dCOM only meets for one meeting during the summer. Summer is when I have the least amount of money. Seminarians are doing field education internships, CPE or working to save up money for next year. There is no access to scholarships, grants or loans, and financial assistance from the conference has never been a suggestion. This year especially, it looks like a tough summer for employment.
My other experience has been that dCOM meets when I have scheduled classes. I find it ironic that I leave important instruction to talk about what I'm learning. Professors generally excuse this absence because it is for professional reasons, but there is catching up to be done. The travel, the expense and the intellectual catch-up is exhausting.
I wish I could help dCOM, and conferences, understand that diversity in seminary education is a plus for the connexional system of the United Methodist Church. Encouraging students to attend the closest seminary so that it's easier to meet with dCOM actually breaks down the ties that bind us. We become more fragmented when we all stay close to home. We also push really great people out of serving the church because frustration levels get to a breaking point. I have seen far too many people give up on this system - people who could have transformed the local charge and the greater body.
My suggestion, should anyone wish to listen to this voice, is help us achieve. Make a little room at Annual Conference to meet with your candidates who attend far away. You don't have to get everyone that week, but look at those who have to take a train or plane to reach you, and help them out. If they can make the commitment to attend annual conference (which should offer a seminarian discount since most of us have negative income and live off loans), help them out with an hour of your time. What better way to learn about your candidate than over a meal? Jesus taught his disciples over meals all the time. United Methodists are known for the fellowship over the meal - although usually in crockpot form.
We hope we are not a burden to you - another thing to squeeze into the calender. We want to learn from you, and we seek affirmation that the gifts we see in ourselves are visible to others, especially those already within the church. We hope that we reignite your passion for ministry by sharing all the wonderful and new things we learn along the way. We hope that you are filled with an experience of the Holy Spirit and a sense of comfort that the church will continue in capable hands. I hope we get to that sense of mutual benefaction for the sake of the church in the world.
There are 13 United Methodist seminaries in existence. That means there are more people than just me who are studying in an area outside their home conference, and especially outside of their districts. While it is their choice to go to a seminary closest to home or far away, I question how much help is provided in helping them balance the requirements of academia and church.
My experience has been that dCOM only meets for one meeting during the summer. Summer is when I have the least amount of money. Seminarians are doing field education internships, CPE or working to save up money for next year. There is no access to scholarships, grants or loans, and financial assistance from the conference has never been a suggestion. This year especially, it looks like a tough summer for employment.
My other experience has been that dCOM meets when I have scheduled classes. I find it ironic that I leave important instruction to talk about what I'm learning. Professors generally excuse this absence because it is for professional reasons, but there is catching up to be done. The travel, the expense and the intellectual catch-up is exhausting.
I wish I could help dCOM, and conferences, understand that diversity in seminary education is a plus for the connexional system of the United Methodist Church. Encouraging students to attend the closest seminary so that it's easier to meet with dCOM actually breaks down the ties that bind us. We become more fragmented when we all stay close to home. We also push really great people out of serving the church because frustration levels get to a breaking point. I have seen far too many people give up on this system - people who could have transformed the local charge and the greater body.
My suggestion, should anyone wish to listen to this voice, is help us achieve. Make a little room at Annual Conference to meet with your candidates who attend far away. You don't have to get everyone that week, but look at those who have to take a train or plane to reach you, and help them out. If they can make the commitment to attend annual conference (which should offer a seminarian discount since most of us have negative income and live off loans), help them out with an hour of your time. What better way to learn about your candidate than over a meal? Jesus taught his disciples over meals all the time. United Methodists are known for the fellowship over the meal - although usually in crockpot form.
We hope we are not a burden to you - another thing to squeeze into the calender. We want to learn from you, and we seek affirmation that the gifts we see in ourselves are visible to others, especially those already within the church. We hope that we reignite your passion for ministry by sharing all the wonderful and new things we learn along the way. We hope that you are filled with an experience of the Holy Spirit and a sense of comfort that the church will continue in capable hands. I hope we get to that sense of mutual benefaction for the sake of the church in the world.
Friday, May 1, 2009
Another turning point - a fork stuck in the road
There are many lasts to be had right now. The last day of classes. The last paper to write. The last exam to take. The last party to attend. The last chance to hug a dear friend before paths diverge across the country.
We came here with hopes and dreams, and we leave with the same hopes and dreams. Perhaps we leave with a little more insight on how to make them happen. I will be staying - throughout the summer and into next academic year. However, I will not return with many friends. It's bittersweet to think I will spend more time in a place I love, but some of the people I have come to love will not be here.
But they need to go. They need to take their places in the will of God. They need their turn to bring about changes that let others know they are not alone in this world. I need them to go too. They have let me lean on them when I was not strong. Because of them, I healed when I didn't think it was possible. Now it's time for me to prove how strong I really am - to me and to them. When I stand tall and proud I also honor all that they have done to help me. They may not get the fruit of their labor, but someone else will. I will pass it on to another group of people who have the potential to be just as amazing. It's now my position to help bring that around. This time next year, it will be my turn to say the big good byes. Until then, I will enjoy this time I have left and look forward to all the possibilities to come.
We came here with hopes and dreams, and we leave with the same hopes and dreams. Perhaps we leave with a little more insight on how to make them happen. I will be staying - throughout the summer and into next academic year. However, I will not return with many friends. It's bittersweet to think I will spend more time in a place I love, but some of the people I have come to love will not be here.
But they need to go. They need to take their places in the will of God. They need their turn to bring about changes that let others know they are not alone in this world. I need them to go too. They have let me lean on them when I was not strong. Because of them, I healed when I didn't think it was possible. Now it's time for me to prove how strong I really am - to me and to them. When I stand tall and proud I also honor all that they have done to help me. They may not get the fruit of their labor, but someone else will. I will pass it on to another group of people who have the potential to be just as amazing. It's now my position to help bring that around. This time next year, it will be my turn to say the big good byes. Until then, I will enjoy this time I have left and look forward to all the possibilities to come.
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