The Trifecta

Oh dear... Three rejections in a row. Some of them, I understand - it was a bit of a long shot with reference to our lifestyles. However Ben seems to be working out.

Ben and I have been e-mailing since before I used my current matchmaking service. We're in, generally, the same fields, and we both find religion very important when it comes to a relationship. (We're different Protestant denominations, but I won't hold that against him!) This is starting off pretty well, and Sunday night I'll have a chance to see where it's at. I'm trying not to get too excited - overinflated expectations have a way of biting you in the end.

Now there's also Erik. He's a bit younger, and he comes via the matchmaking service. He caught me online (AIM) as I was getting ready for sleep, so we didn't talk much. He said I'm cute though. What bothered me was that I was bothered how quickly he said that. The thought, "Why did you even say that?" popped in. Have I allowed my self-esteem to be deflated by those first three rejections that I can't trust anyone who actually might be interested? Is it just general creepy to lead a conversation with how someone's beauty is perceived? I'm not sure about him yet, but I'll see where this goes.

Toodles until Sunday!

The internet matchmaker

It seems so wrong to use the Internet as your matchmaker. It's impersonal. It can't take into account your feelings. It seems so calculated. But one of my guilty pleasures is watching "The Millionaire Matchmaker" on Bravo. While there still is a sense of magic to finding a person who is right for you, she does break some of the stuff down into basic categories that make sense. Well, that kind of stuff is something a computer could easily do, so I'll give it a try.

I posted my profile online, and I was totally honest in all my answers. That's a humbling thing to do. I even put up some of my favorite pictures of me. They're not great (I don't think I'm photogenic), but they are candid and give insight into who I am. I enjoy being able to screen for some of the things that are deal breakers or 'must haves' for me. This definitely seems better than some of the free sites, where I hope I get to find out about this stuff at some point before a face to face meeting.

Well readers, here we go. New city, new life, new beginning, new profile online. Let's see what comes!

The Seinfeld Date

Have you ever been on a date so bad that you were sure Kramer, Elaine, George or Jerry was going to suddenly sit next to you? If not, you're really lucky. If so, this story's for you.

I was asked to go to dinner and a movie. This sounded like a really great start for a date. I spent 2 hours getting my hair, makeup and outfit ready. I put real effort into looking my best. When I stepped into the restaurant, I really think I looked radiant.

Here's the kicker. As soon as I sat down, he informs me another person will join us! Yes, his friend is coming. There are now three of us. I sat the whole time wondering if I was intruding on their date or if I got two for the price of one! I said all of two sentences the entire dinner. Truthfully, I think I spoke to the waitress more than the two of them together.

Then we got to the movie. I made the sad mistake of sitting between them. I felt like the net in a ping pong match. The conversation was being volleyed over me, and I was really just in the way.

It's just one of those moments when you think,"I could have made a fortune selling this idea as a Seinfeld episode."

In the land of "not"

I seem to be stuck in a land of nots. I'm not young, but I'm not old. I'm not skinny, but I'm not a whale. I'm not a genius, but I'm not a vegetable. I'm not a professional, but I'm not without credentials. I'm not from the East Coast, but I'm not living in the Mid-west. I'm not conservative enough to be a republican, but I'm not liberal enough to be a democrat. I'm not wealthy, but I'm not desolate.

So who am I? I'm almost 30 (6 weeks and counting). I'm overweight but trying. I'm a student with too little time, money and energy. I'm compassionate. I'm loving. I'm a sister, daughter, friend, roommate, student, teacher, candidate for ministry, lay speaker, parishioner. I'm Kelly